In the past few years, I have had many life changes that have shaken me to my core. These life-changing events have made me learn new habits that questioned my core beliefs. As a result, I have understood that the most important thing that everyone must do is:

1. Fight for what you believe in
2. Get mad when it does not go your way
3. Get over it and move on

Each one of these steps comes with a set of new problems which take time to adapt to. Each time you encounter these large changes, you need to ask yourself, is this what I believe in? And if the answer is no, then you should probably stop what you are doing and fix the problem. If the large change is something that you do believe in, then you must ask yourself how to change and who you will hurt in the process.

Sometimes, it can be more damaging than you imagined. In those times, you must keep your bearings and wits about you, and constantly remind yourself, silently, that this life-changing event will pass, and you can move on. But getting to that point is hard. Especially when it is nothing except you telling yourself what you want, need, or desire.

Upon your arrival at a decision point, you need to stand firm in your decision. Wavering on your decision does not help anybody involved in your situation. So, make a stand, and then keep going on with the plan. When I say, plan, I don't mean you have a ten-step plan, it means coming back to your core beliefs. With your core beliefs in place, is this the next right step to take for me to achieve my goal? That is all the planning that you really need.

Once you make decisions, you do not need to tell everyone why you made that decision. It only needs to make sense for you. In fact, the less you can tell others about why you made the decision, the better off you are. The more you tell people, the more they question why you made that idea, and they often times feel a need to impress their own opinions onto you to show you why this is a bad idea. Some will be supportive of your decisions, but most will not understand.

Fight for that decision

Once you have made the leap in a life-changing event (such as ending a bad long-term relationship), do not waver, and do not dilly dally. Now is the time for action. Talking about it will actually delay your ability to complete your new life, and it is hard for most people to live in limbo for a long time. Most people crave stability and certainty even over confusion and possibility. So, drive hard to the goal line on your task, as soon as you can.

Get mad

Sometimes, your decision will not render a good end state for you. You will have been disappointed in your inability to make the leap to the next level that you hoped for. Only to find yourself in a new hole that you did not plan for or anticipate. Get mad about it, but you cannot let the disappointment consume you. You have to consume the disappointment and live with these decisions that you made. Refer back to your core belief system. Are you still on track with your core beliefs? Then, you should not fear the outcome. More often than not, this comes through as an attempt to do something, and you failed. And failure is an option. It is the most common result of attempting something.

Get over it

Now that you have tried, and if you have failed, get over it. Try again.

Adapt. Overcome.

Adapt. Grow.

Adapt and Grow